Grief Articles
Quote of the month
"The death of a baby is like a stone cast into the stillness of
a quiet pool;
the concentric ripples of despair sweep out in all directions,
affecting many, many people."
--De Frain, 1991
Remembering Your Baby
Below are some creative ways to remember your angel baby...
There are many different ways of paying tribute to and remembering your baby. Some people prefer more traditional methods of remembrance such as lighting a candle at church or leaving flowers at the grave and others prefer more creative, individual ways of remembering such as making a memorial quilt out of the clothes they bought for their baby. There is no right or wrong way of remembering, all that matters is that it feels right to you. Some people may not be able to face visiting their baby's grave or creating a memory box for months or even years after their baby has passed and this too is fine. Grief is so individual and we all cope with it in different ways so don't ever feel as though your way is wrong.
We hope that you find the following ideas helpful and if you have any ideas of your own, or would like to share how you remember your angel baby then please go to the contact us page and send us an email with your ideas. If you would like to see how others remember their babies, go to the Angels page to see some moving tributes to some very precious angel babies.
1) Plant a tree or a particularly special flower in your garden and place a plaque next to it with some words of remembrance engraved into it.
2) Create a small memory box and keep some of the things you bought for your baby in it as well as any photographs you have from scans during your pregnancy.
3) Ask at the hospital if you can create a foot and hand imprint for your baby, frame it and place it somewhere special.
4) Choose a day each week or each month to take memorial flowers to your baby's grave or to a special place where you can go to think -such as the beach or a woodland walk.
5) Create an online memorial for your baby and write down the story of your pregnancy, when you conceived, when you felt the first kick and how you felt at each stage. Upload your scan images and any music which reminds you of your baby.
6) Light a candle every night and take a few minutes to sit in silence and remember your angel. You could do this with your partner as a way of sharing your grief.
7) Make a diary and write down anything you want to about your experience. Write your feelings and your thoughts and how you are coping. Whenever you read it you will think of your baby and in time you will begin to feel less sadness and some joy at the months you spent with your angel.
8) Write down some messages, things which you wish you would have had the chance to say to your baby, moments which you were looking forward to sharing with them. Place the messages into a box and lock them away.
9) Write your own funeral poems for your baby and read them out at the service, or just keep them private for yourself. It often helps people to deal with their grief.
10) When you feel up to it, why not gather your friends and family together for a memorial service or a celebration of the time your baby was alive and you felt him or her in your womb. Your baby could hear things from the outside world when he or she had been growing for just 17 weeks. Although your angel may not have been born alive, they still lived.
11) Donate money to a miscarriage or stillbirth charity in honour of your loved one or volunteer to help raise funds/support those in a similar situation to yourself.
12) During the holiday period, buy an extra special bauble or christmas decoration and dedicate it to your baby. Whenever you look at it, each christmas, you will remember your angel and smile.
13) If you bought lots of clothes for your baby, why not make some of them into a patchwork blanket or a memorial quilt?
14) Wear a special piece of jewellery that reminds you of your baby, perhaps a small charm on a bracelet or a pendent to wear on a necklace.
15) Visit your baby's resting place often and take memorial flowers to lay down. Try getting really bright, different flowers which will make you smile whenever you see them.
16) Put a bench or special seat in your garden and attach a plaque to it with some words of remembrance dedicated to your angel baby.
